Domestic Violence

Domestic violence isn't always violent. It often starts with non-violent forms of controlling or abusive behavior such as yelling, threats, financial control, jealousy, and degrading behavior. This site cannot assess your particular relationship as being abusive or not. Seek help from a counselor whether independent or from a church, or call an area shelter to talk to someone.


Definitions

Violence in the home can take on several unfortunate forms of abuse. The phrase domestic violence is commonly used to describe both family violence and intimate parter violence. Families to Freedom serves those leaving intimate partner relationships where some form of violence is pervasive, habitual, recurring and/or damaging. We also serve those leaving emergency shelter from intimate partner violence.

  • Family Violence - Abusive behavior between family members including elder abuse and child abuse
  • Intimate Partner Violence - Abuse occurring within a couple's relation such as dating, marriage and cohabitation, that includes aggression or coercive acts by a current or former intimate partner

According to the CDC, an intimate partner is a person with whom one has a close personal relationship that can be characterized by the following:

  • Emotional connectedness
  • Regular contact
  • Ongoing physical contact and sexual behavior
  • Identity as a couple
  • Familiarity and knowledge about each other?s lives



Forms of Violence

Violence in the home hurts everyone. Children that witness or experience family violence are especially vulnerable to lasting emotional damage and adhering to social norms. Below are some of the ways an abusive partner may behave:

Financial Control

  • maintains control over income
  • withholding money and access to money
  • forbidding employment or education
  • requires justification for all money spent
  • withhold information about debt or due bills that the victim is responsible for

Technological

  • stalking by using technology
  • hacking into email, phone, personal accounts, and devices to monitor activity
  • using tracking app or device to monitor location, phone calls, and text messages
  • monitoring social media activity
  • keeping or demanding to know passwords

Verbal

  • says demeaning things
  • blames partner for everything
  • name-calling, put downs, insults
  • intimidating threats
  • screams in the face

Emotional

  • justifies abusive behavior as acceptable
  • public shaming and humiliation
  • undermines self-esteem and confidence
  • extreme jealousy, even over attention to children and family
  • stalking and obsessive calling

Psychological

  • isolation from others
  • silent treatment
  • denying abuse happened
  • forcing false information to confuse or doubt reality
  • damage physical property
  • harming others you care about like pets or children

Physical

  • hitting, pushing, slapping, punching, kicking
  • choking
  • burning
  • controlling or forcing medication or illicit drugs
  • harm with blunt objects or weapons
  • murder

Sexual

  • forcing sex or sex acts
  • unwanted filming or photography
  • initiates sex when unconscious or coerced into silence
  • physical abuse during sex
  • coercing sex without protection or sabotaging birth control
  • forcing to have sex with others

If you are trapped in an abusive relationship- get help! Get to a safe place then call a local shelter for advice or The Hotline at 800-799-7233. Consider calling from someone else's phone or non-mobile phone if you think you are being monitored. You can also delete your call history on your mobile phone.


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